Before the ring series - Episode 2 ; Chasity and Co-habitation

I would like to welcome you all to the New Year! I will be continuing the series I started last year; Before the rings. Today's topic is a serious issue in many relationships around the world. How many of you are of the opinion that sex before marriage is right or wrong? I will give my opinion and let you, readers give yours.
What is chastity? It is abstaining from all sexual intercourse before or outside marriage. Marriage is scared and should be honoured by all and kept pure. Sex is also scared and therefore should not be seen as a tool to trap or taken trivially. Being one flesh happens as soon as a man and woman are married.
The idea of moving in together when not legitimately married either by the church, court or tradition does not help compatibility or make the person perfect for you.
Do not be deceived ladies, a man who is genuinely interested in you and wants to be your life partner legally does not require you to move in with him, force you to be pregnant to test your fertility or constantly want to eat the "cake" before marrying you.
In fact moving in with him is a wrong notion, he will only access your pantie freely and delay his commitment as he already sees you as a live-in lover and can't be bothered to make it right.
You will gain alot if you take this principle to heart: No marriage, no sex. No - cohabitation, no sex before marriage. Be wise!

Happy New Year Folks!

I wish you all a Happy New Year! It is going to be a year of abundance and plenty!

Merry Christmas

 

I hope your holidays are unforgettable! Thank all for your support.

Rape and it's stigma

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Sorry guys, I have been away for sometime. This story am posting just cut my attention and I beg to deviate from the series I started some days ago to make this post.

An 18yrs old rape victim, whose identity is withheld has committed sucide in the Amarata area of Yenogoa Local Government Area of Bayelsa State, Nigeria. The deceased, a native of Oduali community in Abus/Odua Local Government Area of Rivers state, was allegedly raped by three unindentified boys in the area.
The victim reportedly took her life due to the stigmatization she experienced and the pain she felt after the incident.
A family source confirmed that the victim was gang raped at gunpoint while on an errand for for her elder sister. She was said to have been forced into an uncompleted building by her assailants, who were three in number. She was able to identify one of the offenders who was traced back to his home but discovered he had absconded.

Unknowned to her guardians, the distraughted girl had decided to take her life. She drank a poisonous substance that killed her. It was further gathered that she left a sucide note before taking her life.

What kind of  punishement should be melted out to perpetrators to eradicated this monstrous act?
 Victims should realise that its not their fault and taking their life is allowing the offender to go free. Please give your thoughts on this.

Before the rings- Episode 1 (Giving)

There so many meanings of giving but I would use a simple dictionary meaning: Giving is handing out properties, gifts, time, money, fulfilling promises by voluntary transfer without receiving value in return.
What is the disposition of your intending spouse to giving? What does he/she give? How often does he/she give? How much of all his/her giving do you get in terms of time, money, gifts and so on.
 Please, do not misinterpret this to mean he/she must be "Santa Claus". Am not also saying that falling for someone is dependant on how much they can give you, or how well they lavish gifts on you but during the period of courtship if he/she is not the giving type it's not going to change after the "rings" have been exchanged.

This is one score you have to sit, discuss and reach a compromise on rather than assume and play the " love is blind" song. Also take into consideration that once a man or woman does not have enough to always share but has a generous mind and attitude with a bright prospect for the future you can team up to build an endearing and prosperous marriage.

Fact is A person who cannot share or give from the little they have will not share or give when he/she has enough. This is isn't only money but also gifts, time, emotions, encouragement, vision and everything else that is meant to be shared in a relationship.
Question: Are you a giver or always the receiver?  keep your comments rolling in.

Before the ring series

Dear readers, I would like us to treat a very important topic which will run in series.

As we all know, marriage is not a destination, but a life  long journey involving two parties. It is a covenant relationship and that is why when a woman or man give themselves into marriage without adequate covenant protection, they become vulnerable.

It is obvious that love cannot be absent when talking about marriage and its associates; courting and dating. It will be beneficial to address this subject of love via a popular phrase that says "Love is blind". We do know that love covers a multitude of defects but it is not advisable that one anticipating marriage should walk into it blindly.

In this series we would be looking at Nine topics namely; Giving, Chastity, Principles, Company, Previous relationships, Compatibilities, Health Compatibilities, Prejudice and Miscellaneous.

This is going to be so much fun to talk about and hear your different views and opinions. Please join in!

A minute silence for a Legend

 The death of Nelson Mandela  was announced by the South African Government on Thursday 5th of December. He is a Legend that changed the History of SA.
Rest in peace, Madiba!